Have Your Own Mind

MJ’s Words: When we base our confidence on others, we set ourselves up for disappointment. Our choices and decisions shouldn’t be based on what others think is right for us, but what we KNOW is right for ourselves. At times, we all become indecisive about a decision, but you don’t have to run to others for them to decide for you. Instead, follow your heart, go to God, or wait to decide until the time is right. The best decision is what you choose for yourself.

Words of advice: Have your own mind. It is ok to decide to do something that you thought you were ready for and fail at it. Why? Failure increases growth, wisdom, and maturity and those things are just a few benefits from failing. You also become even more powerful and wise for the next thing. Be confident in yourself and your decisions. Trust your decisions and most importantly, trust God.

How to Be Confident – wikiHow

An article written by wikiHow.

How to Be Confident

Are you confident?

Confidence:

– full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing

– belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assured

[Dictionary.com]

Wikipedia: Self-confidence does not necessarily imply “self-belief” or a belief in one’s ability to succeed. For instance, one may be inept at a particular sport or activity, but remain “confident” in one’s demeanor, simply because one does not place a great deal of emphasis on the outcome of the activity. When one does not dwell on negative consequences one can be more “self-confident” because one is worrying far less about failure or the disapproval of others following potential failure. One is then more likely to focus on the actual situation which means that enjoyment and success in that situation is also more probable. Belief in one’s abilities to perform an activity comes through successful experience and may add to, or consolidate, a general sense of self-confidence. Studies have also found a link between high levels of confidence and wages. Seemingly, those who self-report they were confident earlier in schooling earned better wages and were promoted more quickly over the life course.

MJ’s Words: Are you confident in yourself because of the material things that you own or because of a title or position you uphold currently. Or are you confident in yourself because of who you are and your abilities? Economically, we were taught to earn things based on our teachings (knowledge), the understanding of what we want, and the misconception of what we need. One’s ability to be confident has already been earned, is unneeded, and has been fulfilled. Many of us are blinded by external distractions because of the redundant dependency of impressionistic views and opinions of others. Would someone be able to experience God through you based on what the eyes couldn’t see? Would you know who you were if you were without everything? What is in your heart?

Words of advice: Your confidence is your own ability and willingness to see, understand, and accept who you are. We disappoint ourselves when we latch our self-worth onto temporary things. Temporary things only last a short amount of time, but one’s view of self lasts forever no matter how many times you change the scenery.